I’ve been pondering how to be a better wife, mother, daughter, sister, sister-in-law, cousin, and Holy Spirit containing believer in Jesus, how to communicate His light, how to be a candle upon a hill and not under a basket, neither freezing out nor scorching others who come near me.
Fellow blogger, The Mystery of the Ages, wrote a lovely post here; http://theincrediblegift.blogspot.com/2012/01/can-your-family-be-saved.html
As this applies to all of us all the time it helped bring into focus a few things that have been on my mind to try to improve in this still new year. Here they are;
Open the lines of communication and take down the roadblocks that hamper it. Disconnect from distracting pursuits and mindless entertainments to allow the quiet spaces necessary to know each other.
Put the phone and electronics aside to be a listener. Sit, work, or walk together without interruption. Be present physically and mentally for those you are with and not off texting or taking calls while they are talking with you.
Especially ask that children put away games and phones to teach them how to look you in the eye and read body language and tone of voice. These are habits that are vital to all of us if we are to be fully aware of the nuances of the complete meanings being conveyed.
Read aloud together, reading current events or informational materials that you think will appeal to them, pausing within the reading for comments and discussion to see their reaction and feelings. Personal anecdotes often flow from identifying with events and stories.
Throw away the ideas of age segregation. Break down the illusion that people are different because of modern lifestyles and share the generations. All people have the same needs to be heard and held as worthy of attention. It’s wonderful to get older and younger to talking after a little practice and so vital to strengthen the ties that bind us together as families. Our time is limited, we want to leave lasting impressions of love and hope. These are treasures we can lay up in heaven.
Deuteronomy Chapter 6 especially verse 7 comes to mind.
7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.